Thoughts on Thinking: Is Anyone Thinking Anymore?

These days, we are bombarded by social media, apps, and other technologies that keep us distracted, and one thing that I am beginning to notice, it is really concerning me, is the overall decrease in thinking. No one is thinking critically anymore; sometimes it seems like people are not thinking at all. So I decided to do a series on thinking. I have so many thoughts (on this and other things, hence the blog), so I have no idea how many parts it will be. The overall goal, though, is to get you thinking and hopefully doing more.

This post isn’t to bash generative AI, social media, or technology. I actually think these tools are so useful to have and use them myself. It just seems like we took it too far and don’t know when to stop. We scroll the apps for hours at a time, not realizing just how much of a luxury time is. We have gotten so used to the generative AI doing everything for us that we can’t even be bothered to write an email by ourselves.

You might be thinking, What’s the problem? We are just entertaining ourselves and using the tools that make our lives easier. There’s nothing wrong with entertainment or efficiency; it’s just important to realize that one of the unintended (possibly intended? I’ve seen a few conspiracies that I won’t get into today) consequences is the overall decline in thinking for yourself. We watch videos about major world events that directly affect our lives and our future, but before we can process them, we’ve already scrolled to the next clip, something funnier, lighter, and completely unrelated. The moment passes, and the event is forgotten, with no time to think critically about the world around us. That loss is enormous, and most of us don’t even realize it’s happening.

Another concerning issue that I’ve noticed with social media is that we’re being told how to think. There is this expectation that you have to believe what everyone else believes on the platform, if not, you’ll be cancelled. This does not apply to harmful ideologies (hateful isms are not welcome here), but outside of that, nuance just generally feels unwelcome. Influencers are telling us what lifestyle we should aspire to, what brands to buy, and how to look. We repeat the same words, we chase the same aesthetics, and slowly begin to look, talk, and act the same. It’s so uncanny; it honestly reminds me of the show Pluribus.

Again, I am not trying to sound like a hater. I think there’s beauty in connecting over shared interests, but a lot of times that’s not what’s happening. Instead, we’re witnessing a quiet loss of identity tied directly to the loss of independent thought.

Thinking is a remarkable ability; it’s one of the key characteristics of being human. In the words of the famous philosopher, René Descartes, “I think, therefore I am,” when you really “think” about that saying, you start to realize just how profound it really is.

Descartes actually coined this saying after a few days of overthinking. He questioned everything around him, everything he had ever learned, his perception of reality. His goal was to push doubt to its absolute limit. He doubted everything to the point of doubting literally everything, including his own existence. This spiral deeply upset him until he realized that, just by being able to doubt, he could think, which therefore meant he existed.

Since we all have the capacity to think, we all exist; this raises a crucial question: what do we do with this existence?

The answer sounds easy: whatever you want. But the truth is, many of us don’t actually know what we want anymore. We spend so much of our lives doing what we think we’re supposed to do that, when we finally have freedom, it feels strangely empty.

This is something I experienced firsthand. I worked a job I hated, telling myself that once I quit, I’d finally have the freedom to do what I wanted. And when I did quit, that freedom mostly turned into months of scrolling. When I got tired of that, I realized something unsettling: I didn’t know how to spend my time because I didn’t know what I actually wanted to do.

It made me genuinely sad to wake up with nothing to do except reach for my phone. I had time, something so precious, but no direction. That’s what led me to create this blog. I had to relearn how to think for myself, how to let ideas come from me instead of from an algorithm, a trend, or someone else’s expectations.

And once we start trying something different, something that actually comes from us, we’re immediately flooded with fear. What if it’s too late? What if I don’t know where to start? What if I do it wrong? We overthink ourselves into inaction.

But here’s what you need to understand: it’s never too late, and you don’t need everything figured out right now. As long as you’re doing what feels true to you, and you’re not harming anyone, including yourself, you’re doing the right thing. The rest unfolds as it’s meant to.

No matter what you think, no matter how right or wrong you believe you are, you exist.
So just do.

It’s Okay to See Yourself—They Already Do

A reflection on self-perception

This past weekend, I took a trip with a friend, and I found myself stuck in that old, familiar loop where I’m worried about how others see me: What do they think of me? What do I say? Sometimes, especially in new or social settings, I catch myself getting caught up in how I’m being perceived. Am I saying the right thing? Did I come off as awkward? Was I too quiet? Instead of relaxing into the moment and fully being myself, I start scanning for signs or clues about how I’m being received.

It’s not about comparing myself to anyone else or being insecure it’s more about this internal pressure to be just right. To be palatable. To be understood. But in doing that, I end up missing out on the joy of being present, of simply existing without overthinking my every move.

The strange thing is… I almost always have great interactions with people. Strangers are kind. Friends are generous. I’ve even heard words like “intriguing,” “beautiful,” “amazing,” “smart” but every time someone offers those words, I freeze. It’s like I’m surprised they see me that way. It’s not that I don’t believe I have value, I think pretty highly of myself but I tend to assume others are just indifferent at best. I rarely think that others see what I see. I brace myself for neutrality. I never expect admiration.

This trip was different, though. For once, I didn’t just hear the compliments I let them land. I let myself feel them. And it finally hit me: it’s okay to think highly of yourself, even if you’re not sure others see what you see. Chances are, they already do. When someone reflects back the good in you, it’s not arrogance to accept it, it’s affirmation. It’s also okay to lean into being well-received. You don’t have to downplay it to seem “humble.”

There was something so affirming about realizing that people don’t just tolerate me; they see me. And what they see is often far more radiant than the version of myself I’ve internalized.

Later that week, my class wrapped up for the semester, and my teammates surprised me with a glowing review in front of the entire class. I didn’t expect it, but their words were heartfelt, genuine, and generous. My professor reminded us that moments like this matter because “we’re often so hard on ourselves.” And it’s true. We can spend so much time focused on our flaws and trying to fix them or trying not to take up too much space that we forget to acknowledge what makes us beautiful, magnetic, or deeply worthy.

It’s easier to accept our faults than our brilliance. But the truth is you might be someone’s favorite person and not even know it. You might be inspiring someone just by being yourself. And while we don’t need external validation to be whole, there’s something powerful about hearing how others see us, especially when we’re learning to be gentler with ourselves.

So this is your reminder: take the compliment. Let the love in. Receive your flowers, even if it makes you uncomfortable. You are not invisible. You are not less-than. And maybe it’s time to start seeing yourself the way others already do.

You are who you think you are, so think highly.